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Breaking Up - Emotional Affair

When it comes to affairs, there would be several different ways you can hurt the one you love, just like there are different types of affairs you could have that could have the same end result. The recently popular hit 'Glee' has brought on new prospects of music, but mainly they pointed out two characters who essentially bare the perfect onset of an affair. Will Schuester and Emma Pillsbury work together in high-school, but to give a brief introduction for those who would not be familiar with the show; Will is a married man who simply carries emotional feelings for Emma. Glee uses music as an essential way to relate to life and words that define it. Music is a way anyone can express themselves when they can't say it out loud. You must be wondering how would these fictional characters reflect the true image of real life? That is simply because what they've been true, is what anyone could say they've been true. They portray the image of what others have experi

Breaking Up - I don't know who you are

Why is it when you look at the one you love, you just don't feel as though you know anything about them? Sometimes we would find ourselves asking these questions. We wonder why the one we are supposed to feel closest to, is the most distant person in our lives. You just can't figure them out. You either see them as a complete stranger, or you have found yourself forming new relationships and they are deemed the outsider in your intimate relationship. You have a roommate, instead of a partner. Someone you live with, share the bills (if that's the case), and say the occasional greetings, without truly knowing anything about the person you have committed you entire life to. The moment you realize this disconnection from your partner, something is wrong in your relationship and you can either rectify that problem, or get out immediately! The question of not knowing who you are with may come up, because his friends might mention a thing or two about him that you were completely

Breaking Up - Where is the love?

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Where is the love we had when we first fell for each other. Where is the love in our marriage? Why am I getting a divorce? How did it get to this point? These are some of the questions we ask our selves when we have reached the lowest of lows in our relationships. There is constant arguing, name calling, you probably even saw him raise that hand for you, just when anger has reached its breaking point, that is when the tears begin and your heart breaks. A friend of mine once told me 'When you find a good man, make sure you hold him by the neck, because there are not many outside' another friend made a reference to the ladies; being a guy himself he mentioned how 'Women are the most complicated beings in the world'. We all have our stories to tell about the opposite sex, each one has their very own complexities, we just can't help it, it's built in us. Both of them had good points though., it often seems that every time we enter into a relationship; 'he's

Breaking Up - Trust

You always second guess their move, each time they make one decision, you map out another scenario. They mention going out with a friend or spending last night by a relative and you always find a way to have something grumbling at the edge of your throat that something doesn't really smell right. Trust is a significant reliance on the responsibility of others to behave honorably in that you hold a strong confidence in the person you care about. You trust that person to catch you when you are at your lowest. You trust enough with everything you consider to be most valued to you. Trust is intertwined into a deep friendship and consideration for that party involved in your life. Trust goes both ways, in that you would be able to have that person's back as well, even when they are at their lowest. Therefore when you lack that essential trust in your relationship and you find yourself looking back to see if that person has their hands out to catch you, that relationship in itself m

Breaking Up - Affair

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What does he see in her? What does she see in him? These are the questions we sometimes end up asking our selves, until you ponder on the question, what did you do wrong? What do you do when you find out your spouse is having an affair or even when you suspect them of having one? The one thing you do not do is blame yourself. There was nothing you did wrong. Just remember, you are the person you are, the person your spouse claimed to love or even care for deeply. Their straying has nothing to do with you. If someone loves you, there is no way they would want to hurt you, no matter how small the hurt. When you love someone, you try to put their best interest at heart. You always put their needs above your your own. That's only natural, love is deeper than the actual three words. The 'I Love you' means much more when that person shows you rather than tell you. Many people could tell you they love you, but not many could actually mean it. So we are back to the affair and you s

Breaking Up - Chapter One

You spend a lifetime with someone and whether or not you have known them for a day, a week, a month or even a year and more, it still feels like you have been with them for a lifetime. That is why breaking up; ending that relationship, makes you feel as though a piece of you is going away with someone you may have even loved. The question is why do people break-up? The answer is not a simple one. **Your spouse had an affair. **There is no trust in your relationship. **You no longer love that person as you did once before. **You Two just separated. **You have that feeling like you don't really know your spouse anymore. **You found yourself falling for that guy. **Or he just wouldn't pop the question. There are many reasons why the 'break-up' occurs. No matter, it always hurts when things come to an end. A friend once told me she spent twenty-five years with her live in boyfriend and one day she realized that she didn't love him as much as she used to and ended the re