Breaking Up - Chapter One
You spend a lifetime with someone and whether or not you have known them for a day, a week, a month or even a year and more, it still feels like you have been with them for a lifetime.
That is why breaking up; ending that relationship, makes you feel as though a piece of you is going away with someone you may have even loved.
The question is why do people break-up?
The answer is not a simple one.
**Your spouse had an affair.
**There is no trust in your relationship.
**You no longer love that person as you did once before.
**You Two just separated.
**You have that feeling like you don't really know your spouse anymore.
**You found yourself falling for that guy.
**Or he just wouldn't pop the question.
There are many reasons why the 'break-up' occurs. No matter, it always hurts when things come to an end.
A friend once told me she spent twenty-five years with her live in boyfriend and one day she realized that she didn't love him as much as she used to and ended the relationship.
For her it made no sense living with someone she didn't love anymore, but she had also spent twenty-five years of her life only to realize this guy wasn't 'the one', when she could have been spending that time falling in love or even seeking adventure.
How would we know when we are in the right relationship?
Maybe in time those feelings would grow into something more.
Life is short and however we live it, we sometimes reflect towards our elderly ages and wonder, did we live it the way we wanted.
Did I fall in love?
Or even what would have been?
So we are back to the question, why do people break-up?
Simply because we are not ever sure of our own lives, constantly depending on the support of that other person, who should be called our better half.
We break up when there is that tear in the relationship that causes us not to trust that other person with our hearts completely. We fear that broken heart. No one wants to get hurt so the the best way to prevent that is to cut all ties from that person.
There is this saying that I have grown to admire.
"We take one minute to like someone, one day to love them, but a lifetime to forget the ones we love"
Breaking-up isn't easy, especially if you loved that person.
Sometimes we lack the necessary friendship in the relationship and we cause ourselves to remain detached, no one can hurt us if we are detached....
Life is a complex unit and the only person that could define who you are is yourself.
Lexa your classic adviser. Leave me a comment and stay tuned for more...
I hope I helped.
That is why breaking up; ending that relationship, makes you feel as though a piece of you is going away with someone you may have even loved.
The question is why do people break-up?
The answer is not a simple one.
**Your spouse had an affair.
**There is no trust in your relationship.
**You no longer love that person as you did once before.
**You Two just separated.
**You have that feeling like you don't really know your spouse anymore.
**You found yourself falling for that guy.
**Or he just wouldn't pop the question.
There are many reasons why the 'break-up' occurs. No matter, it always hurts when things come to an end.
A friend once told me she spent twenty-five years with her live in boyfriend and one day she realized that she didn't love him as much as she used to and ended the relationship.
For her it made no sense living with someone she didn't love anymore, but she had also spent twenty-five years of her life only to realize this guy wasn't 'the one', when she could have been spending that time falling in love or even seeking adventure.
How would we know when we are in the right relationship?
Maybe in time those feelings would grow into something more.
Life is short and however we live it, we sometimes reflect towards our elderly ages and wonder, did we live it the way we wanted.
Did I fall in love?
Or even what would have been?
So we are back to the question, why do people break-up?
Simply because we are not ever sure of our own lives, constantly depending on the support of that other person, who should be called our better half.
We break up when there is that tear in the relationship that causes us not to trust that other person with our hearts completely. We fear that broken heart. No one wants to get hurt so the the best way to prevent that is to cut all ties from that person.
There is this saying that I have grown to admire.
"We take one minute to like someone, one day to love them, but a lifetime to forget the ones we love"
Breaking-up isn't easy, especially if you loved that person.
Sometimes we lack the necessary friendship in the relationship and we cause ourselves to remain detached, no one can hurt us if we are detached....
Life is a complex unit and the only person that could define who you are is yourself.
Lexa your classic adviser. Leave me a comment and stay tuned for more...
I hope I helped.
Interesting! I think you are right on target when you say that you define who you are, but also a person's environment influences the definition of self. Through experience, a person is better able to find oneself and use the environment of being around people to complete the definition.
ReplyDeleteIn any environment we would learn how to behave and interact with others. Sometimes we may even allow others to define who we are. There are some who become a part of someone else's life that they lose touch with their own identity. It is better to always remember the person you are so no on else would be able to drown out your personality and replace it with their own. In any environment no matter who we interact with or learn from, it is always best to find yourself and maintain a strong foothold.
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