Breaking Up - I don't know who you are
Why is it when you look at the one you love, you just don't feel as though you know anything about them?
Sometimes we would find ourselves asking these questions. We wonder why the one we are supposed to feel closest to, is the most distant person in our lives. You just can't figure them out.
You either see them as a complete stranger, or you have found yourself forming new relationships and they are deemed the outsider in your intimate relationship. You have a roommate, instead of a partner. Someone you live with, share the bills (if that's the case), and say the occasional greetings, without truly knowing anything about the person you have committed you entire life to. The moment you realize this disconnection from your partner, something is wrong in your relationship and you can either rectify that problem, or get out immediately!
The question of not knowing who you are with may come up, because his friends might mention a thing or two about him that you were completely surprised about, or her friends put something forward to you that you could not believe. A relationship should include the object of openness. Not many people like sharing their personal details, and of course that becomes complicated when then line is crossed and secrets are kept from your partner. Secrets are poison when you think about. You believe you hold it your partner's best interest, but really you are selfishly protecting yourself from getting hurt, because you fear what the secret would kill when it gets out.
Why is it so hard to be open though? Why can't we just speak our minds and tell the truth? Then again, why do we stay with someone we don't love? It's simple really, we all fear getting hurt. The journey of love is one you learn from and if you don't get hurt sometimes, you end up miserable, unable to trust anyone because you fear hurt. It's easier to fail in love, because you learn from it. That doesn't mean you end up in bad relationships constantly, that only means you ignore the lessons learnt and fall prey to a continuous cycle, almost impossible to get out. Getting hurt sucks, you know that but just to place an analogy ahead; if you get burned while ironing, don't you learn from that? Don't you always check to make sure the iron is unplugged before you leave? Or if you get soaked in the rain, don't you always remember to carry an umbrella in your purse whether there is rain, sun, snow, well you get it.
No one wants to get burn or soaked, but we go through those experience to know how to deal with situations like that in the future. A broken heart can be mended until the true love comes around and you grab on to it. S when you end up in a relationship where you feel like you live with a stranger, you know you can fix it. Someone's husband or wife was a stranger before they got married. It doesn't necessarily mean that there is no hope for that relationship, it just means that every moment spent with a stranger makes life less fun. The point off being in a relationship is getting to know each other and learning to love each other. If tat journey is not worth it and you just can't stand who is in your passenger seat, then it wouldn't make sense suffering through a long ride when all you are going to get is a headache at the end of it.
Always try to live every moment to the fullest, because you don't really know when love would come your way, it sometimes surprises you. At the end of the journey, the destination seems so much sweeter.
I believe this music sums up this topic...
Squander by Skunk Anansie Contact me at
lexabuti@hotmail.com
Sometimes we would find ourselves asking these questions. We wonder why the one we are supposed to feel closest to, is the most distant person in our lives. You just can't figure them out.
You either see them as a complete stranger, or you have found yourself forming new relationships and they are deemed the outsider in your intimate relationship. You have a roommate, instead of a partner. Someone you live with, share the bills (if that's the case), and say the occasional greetings, without truly knowing anything about the person you have committed you entire life to. The moment you realize this disconnection from your partner, something is wrong in your relationship and you can either rectify that problem, or get out immediately!
The question of not knowing who you are with may come up, because his friends might mention a thing or two about him that you were completely surprised about, or her friends put something forward to you that you could not believe. A relationship should include the object of openness. Not many people like sharing their personal details, and of course that becomes complicated when then line is crossed and secrets are kept from your partner. Secrets are poison when you think about. You believe you hold it your partner's best interest, but really you are selfishly protecting yourself from getting hurt, because you fear what the secret would kill when it gets out.
Why is it so hard to be open though? Why can't we just speak our minds and tell the truth? Then again, why do we stay with someone we don't love? It's simple really, we all fear getting hurt. The journey of love is one you learn from and if you don't get hurt sometimes, you end up miserable, unable to trust anyone because you fear hurt. It's easier to fail in love, because you learn from it. That doesn't mean you end up in bad relationships constantly, that only means you ignore the lessons learnt and fall prey to a continuous cycle, almost impossible to get out. Getting hurt sucks, you know that but just to place an analogy ahead; if you get burned while ironing, don't you learn from that? Don't you always check to make sure the iron is unplugged before you leave? Or if you get soaked in the rain, don't you always remember to carry an umbrella in your purse whether there is rain, sun, snow, well you get it.
No one wants to get burn or soaked, but we go through those experience to know how to deal with situations like that in the future. A broken heart can be mended until the true love comes around and you grab on to it. S when you end up in a relationship where you feel like you live with a stranger, you know you can fix it. Someone's husband or wife was a stranger before they got married. It doesn't necessarily mean that there is no hope for that relationship, it just means that every moment spent with a stranger makes life less fun. The point off being in a relationship is getting to know each other and learning to love each other. If tat journey is not worth it and you just can't stand who is in your passenger seat, then it wouldn't make sense suffering through a long ride when all you are going to get is a headache at the end of it.
Always try to live every moment to the fullest, because you don't really know when love would come your way, it sometimes surprises you. At the end of the journey, the destination seems so much sweeter.
I believe this music sums up this topic...
Squander by Skunk Anansie Contact me at
lexabuti@hotmail.com
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